If certain family members were speaking to other family members, I would have been able to call their eldest daughter and wished her a happy birthday, but that was not possible. Does my heart ache? No. Do I feel I lost anything important in my life? Yes, but what can I do when certain family members are not speaking to other family. Why should I feel guilty about someone’s own actions? I am only guilty for my own actions if I have done anything wrong. Anyway, certain family members are probably having a wonderful time right now and their actions will be judged sooner or later.